Learning Process
of Life
For generations
marriage has been accepted as a bond between two people. However, the ideals involved in marriage
differ by the individuals involved. The
book, Their Eyes Were Watching God, by Zora Neale Hurston clearly demonstrates
these differences. In the book a girl by
the name Janie is raised by her grandmother and then married off by her
grandmother. Originally all Janie knows
of marriage and love is what her grandmother tells her. As Janie moves on in her life and re-marries,
she finds that everybody has their own idea towards the role of their spouses
in marriage. Over time Janie begins to
develop her own ideas and ideals. In
Their Eyes Were Watching God each principle character has their own perceptions
towards marriage.
The first ideas
that Janie was exposed to was those of her grandmother, Nanny. Nanny saw that
Janie was entering womanhood and she didn't want Janie to experience what her
mother went through. So Nanny set out to
marry her as soon as possible. When
Janie asked about love, she was told that marriage makes love and she will find
love after she marries Logan. Nanny
believed that love was second to stability and security. Only after those first two criteria were
satisfied then and only then could one experience love. Nanny felt that a young girl like Janie was
too young to make decisions for herself, so when she caught Janie exploring her
womanhood Nanny felt that she needed to marry Janie as quickly as possible so
that she could find love in a safe a secure environment. Nanny has her own ideals when it comes to
marriage and Janie will soon learn that everyone's are different.
Second, Janie
sees Logan Killicks' perception of marriage.
In the beginning it appears to Janie that Logan is a very nice
gentleman, who is constantly treating her well.
However as time goes on, Janie see Logan's "true colors." Logan feels that if they are both going to
live together and share their lives then they should do an equal amount of
work. Logan soon puts Janie to work and
treats her more like a mule than a wife.
Logan didn't want a wife out of marriage; he wanted a pack animal. Also, love doesn't seem to be incorporated in
Logan's definition of marriage. As Janie
said "Ah know 'tain't nothin' dere."
Logan didn't see marriage in terms of love, he only saw it in terms of
free labor.
After leaving
Logan in search of love Janie finds Jody Starks. Jody Starks is a thriving politician with a
hard work ethic. He says he loves Janie
and even treats her the way a queen should be treated. Jody keeps Janie looking prim and proper in
the house and store. Jody truly believes
that women should be seen and not heard.
Jody believes that in a marriage that the man is boss and the wife
should listen to him. He is a true
politician; on the outside he appears kind and gentle but from within he is
corrupt. Janie still can't find love and
continues her search.
The final person
that Janie attempts to find love in is Tea Cake Woods. Tea Cake comes in a rescues Janie from her
misery after the death of Jody. It is
here that Janie finally finds what true love is. Tea Cake's idea of marriage is a mutual
relationship where he would prefer to support Janie. However when times are rough Janie willingly
helps Tea Cakes in the fields. Tea Cake
believes in being completely honest with Janie and doesn't try to hold anything
from her. Also, like Nanny Tea Cake
sought protection for Janie he didn't want anything to happen to her; and in
the end he laid down his life for her.
Tea Cake's perception of marriage is different from the others but it is
still his own ideals.
And the last
person who has ideas about marriage is Janie herself. In the beginning she felt that marriage made
love. But soon she found that to be
untrue. In each of her marriages she
found that marriage expectations were different for everyone. In fact Janie's parting word's were,
"you must tell 'em date love Anita smoothen' la ugh grindstone data's de
same thing everywhere and do de same thing tub everything it touch. Love is la de sea. It's ugh moving' thing, but still and all, it
takes shape from de shore it meets, and it's different with every shore." Janie found that marriage changes with the
participants and you must find one with who you are compatible.
Everyone has
separate ideas of what marriage should be. As Janie learned marriage is what
you make of it. Love can only be found
when your beliefs coincide with another's ideas. Even today people find out the hard way that
they are not compatible and that everyone's perception of marriage is
different. This can be seen everyday
among couples who separate and among others whose marriages last the rest of
their lives. Life is a learning process
and we must take the bad with the good.
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